im so damn tired of neurotypicals making posts about what is or isn’t “normal” in relationships, trying to defend themselves from the Big Bad Crazy Person who might someday have their heart
Those posts aren’t about neuro-atypical people, they’re about avoiding manipulative behavior and abusive relationships. Wording it as being about what’s “normal” instead of what’s healthy is misleading and potentially damaging, but don’t shit on people trying to avoid bad situations.
cool, I’m glad you know what posts I’ve seen and what made me, a person with type 2 bipolar, reblog this!
Woah, I was suuuuuper not trying to take it to a personal level with you or the OP. (And reading your tags, I think you’re reading a lot more aggression, or frankly any emotion, into what I wrote than I meant at all.) My experience of anyone writing a “X isn’t normal in relationships” post is probably different from yours, and most of the ones I’ve seen are about not letting people, say, gaslight you or regularly manipulate you into doing things you don’t wanna do, which nobody should have to take from anyone.
The original post has nothing to do with gaslighting or abusive relationships, it’s to do with targeting people based on their mental heath, and prioritizing the experiences of neurotypical people in relationships over those who are neuroatypical. This post warrants no calling out.
if anything, gaslighting would be covered by this post! in gaslighting, the abuser belittles the person so much that they experience cognitive dissonance. That could class the person being gaslit as neuroatypical while they are experiencing that abuse, if they chose to identify as such.
Also interesting that you are willing to ask the op about their experiences if they want to talk about it, but not me. Especially since we know each other in real life. Hm.
but like that’s cool and all. I accept that what you’ve said is the closest to an apology any of us can presently hope for. Here’s hoping that changes in the future.
With the lack of context on the original post, I think that my misunderstanding of what type of posts the OP meant was pretty understandable? I appreciate the continued clarification from you and them both, though, and I totally get that I was referring to a very different kind of post.
Honestly, it’s because we know each other irl that your response felt really hostile to me, so I didn’t want to put myself in a position to let anyone make me feel belittled and worse about myself. So no, I didn’t ask for further information from you, since I already felt pretty picked on.
Actually, I have apologized to the OP, and I’ll apologize again for any hurt feelings. I’ve seen few/none of the kind of post you’re talking about that target people based on their mental health status, so I was responding based on the information I had, but I never meant to offend you or anyone else and I’m sorry for that.
And yeah, I hope that people stop making that kind of post, because it’s obviously really hurtful and crappy of them.